Will Time Ever Be on My Side?

“You, Lord, in the beginning laid the foundation of the earth, And the heavens are the work of Your hands.  They will perish, but You remain; And they will all grow old like a garment; Like a cloak You will fold them up, And they will be changed. But You are the same, And Your years…

The Void Where Shame Hides

I used to experience deep feelings of emptiness. I could be in a room full of people and still feel alone. Somewhere along the line I had created a shell, a ‘false front’ I wanted people to see instead of the real me. In a radio interview on Focus on the Family I heard author…

False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

Grace: The Best Bargain of All

Match making sites are full of people searching for true love; the kind that’s unconditional. Casinos are packed with gamblers hoping to win millions without earning it. Advertisements are constantly promoting ‘free gift with purchase,’ or a ‘no cost consultation.’ Who doesn’t want something for nothing? I’d love to win the lottery, even though I didn’t earn…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

But, Because of Jesus (Shame is Finished)

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). Even though he didn’t sin, Jesus felt shame when he took ours upon himself and was…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…

Confess and Be Blessed

It can be hard to confess our sins to God. I find it easier to avoid certain topics and pray for obvious things like my family, job, friends, or those in need. When it comes to my sins it’s tempting to gloss over them quickly or confess them silently lest I speak out loud and…

Guilt and Shame are Already Dead!

I don’t deserve God’s favor but he gave it to me anyway, that’s grace. I do deserve God’s punishment for my sins but He doesn’t punish me, that’s mercy. God’s mercy and grace can take away the guilt-shame bondage that keeps us bitterly trapped in our past. Hebrews 4:16 tells us we can confidently accept…

Do Miracles Actually Happen?

  I have a feature on my radio program called “The Morning Miracle” where listeners call in and describe the miracles God’s done in their lives. Anyone who doesn’t believe in miracles should tune in because the stories are pretty mind blowing. I’ve heard of miraculous ‘hospital healings’ that stumped medical staff; near death experiences…