God is Watching You…but Not From a Distance

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness” (Jeremiah 31:3). My little world was bright and white as the sun reflected off the snow that rare Alaska morning. I sensed a presence looking down at me; watching me as I played in the snow. I looked up to…

Is it Ever OK to Not Want to Recover?

“When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?” (John 5:6) Mental illness, addiction, and other traumas plague many families including my own. When I chose to recover it was a long and sometimes difficult journey…

You Are Real

When I was a child I loved reading The Velveteen Rabbit (Margery Williams 1922). It’s a story about a child’s toy that longs to be ‘Real.’ “What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day. “Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?” “Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin…

Have You Ever Completely Missed the Point?

“Tell the people of Jerusalem, Look your king is coming to you. He is humble, riding on a donkey-riding on a donkey’s colt” (Matthew 21:5). What happens when God’s will doesn’t line up with ours? It’s tempting to give up isn’t it? I’ll admit I’ve wanted to ‘throw in the towel’ more than once. There…

False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

Grace: The Best Bargain of All

Match making sites are full of people searching for true love; the kind that’s unconditional. Casinos are packed with gamblers hoping to win millions without earning it. Advertisements are constantly promoting ‘free gift with purchase,’ or a ‘no cost consultation.’ Who doesn’t want something for nothing? I’d love to win the lottery, even though I didn’t earn…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

Why Do We Have Hope?

In this life, hope is a moving target. Our hopes change as we change. There are times when our hopes are fulfilled and seasons when they’re dashed. Even in the midst of grieving their loss new hope springs forth; and sometimes even those hopes are dashed too. And unfortunately so much of what we hope for depends on…

How I Went From Darkness to Light

Colossians 1:13 says God rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of light. Before it happened to me: I was drinking heavily, using drugs, and contemplating going to one of those Wicca meetings. A lot of people desire the freedom to live this way, and I guess they should have…