False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

Grace: The Best Bargain of All

Match making sites are full of people searching for true love; the kind that’s unconditional. Casinos are packed with gamblers hoping to win millions without earning it. Advertisements are constantly promoting ‘free gift with purchase,’ or a ‘no cost consultation.’ Who doesn’t want something for nothing? I’d love to win the lottery, even though I didn’t earn…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

Why Do We Have Hope?

In this life, hope is a moving target. Our hopes change as we change. There are times when our hopes are fulfilled and seasons when they’re dashed. Even in the midst of grieving their loss new hope springs forth; and sometimes even those hopes are dashed too. And unfortunately so much of what we hope for depends on…

How I Went From Darkness to Light

Colossians 1:13 says God rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of light. Before it happened to me: I was drinking heavily, using drugs, and contemplating going to one of those Wicca meetings. A lot of people desire the freedom to live this way, and I guess they should have…

Have You Given Yourself Permission to Love?

I frequently ask God to help me love people better, including myself. I desired the kind of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:5. One that’s not “self-seeking,” or “easily angered.” One that doesn’t ‘keep score.’ I learned it wasn’t possible until I gave myself permission: Permission to care about my feelings, to choose my relationships,…

Growth Through Trials and Sorrow

Do you believe there’s a higher purpose to your pain, trials, and suffering? Click here to watch today’s live radio  bit about experiencing growth through trials and difficulties! “The same God who allows our suffering also showers us with compassion” (Lamentations 3:31).