The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

Grace: The Best Bargain of All

Match making sites are full of people searching for true love; the kind that’s unconditional. Casinos are packed with gamblers hoping to win millions without earning it. Advertisements are constantly promoting ‘free gift with purchase,’ or a ‘no cost consultation.’ Who doesn’t want something for nothing? I’d love to win the lottery, even though I didn’t earn…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

But, Because of Jesus (Shame is Finished)

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). Even though he didn’t sin, Jesus felt shame when he took ours upon himself and was…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…

Guilt and Shame are Already Dead!

I don’t deserve God’s favor but he gave it to me anyway, that’s grace. I do deserve God’s punishment for my sins but He doesn’t punish me, that’s mercy. God’s mercy and grace can take away the guilt-shame bondage that keeps us bitterly trapped in our past. Hebrews 4:16 tells us we can confidently accept…

Who Is The Real Victim Of Un-Forgiveness?

Originally posted on Genuine Life with Jodie Stevens:
? Ephesians 4:32 tells us to forgive one another as Christ forgave us. When we don’t it can harm us more than our transgressors because bitterness and resentment are damaging to our mind, body and spirit. When we don’t forgive, we remain a victim of the offense,…

Is Being Right Ever Better Than Being Kind?

On old college friend posted this on Facebook: “If you’re a supporting (such and such) candidate un-friend me now because you’re too stupid to talk to.” As a society we’ve become polarized by so many things. For a lot of us, being right is more important than being kind. Having married a man who does a…

Bitterness: How to Avoid It’s Grip

Bitterness. Every day is a full on battle to avoid its grip. On one side sits my ‘angel’ reminding me how blessed I am. Then the devil whispers every failure, disappointment, and betrayal. Bitterness is like a festering melting pot of unresolved anger, hurt, un-forgiveness, dissatisfaction, disappointment, and regret. Acceptance is the only anecdote for…