When Fear Steals Your Joy

My mother’s cries jerked me awake that fateful morning in 1977. A day of skiing turned tragic for my aunt and uncle during a snowstorm in South Lake Tahoe. They lost control of their car and went careening over the side of a cliff. My uncle Ben lived for an hour on life support but…

Avoid Death Bed Regrets

For those of you that prefer video click here to listen to today’s Genuine Live radio bit live. It’s about identifying what’s blocking you from achieving what you want and avoiding death bed regrets!

Identify the Blocker Keeping You from Getting what You want

If you keep struggling with the same goal year after year, try to identify what your blocker is. It could be fear of success. It could be fear of failure. It’s possible to have both simultaneously. Maybe you’ve been codependent and haven’t followed your heart because you’re acting on everyone else’s advice. Or you’ve been trying…

Love, Shame, and the Mess of Weeds that Hide it All

The recovery process is often described as like “peeling back layers of an onion.” Each new season produces a harvest of discoveries. Sometimes they make our soul blossom like a flower; other times they’re like a drought withering our insides with pain, sorrow and regret. I like to think of these ‘seasons’ as a pruning…

How Do I Fix My Life When I’m the One Who Messed it Up?

“It is when we try to make our will conform with God’s that we begin to use it rightly. To all of us, this was the most wonderful revelation. Our whole trouble had been the misuse of willpower. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with…

You are Not an Imposter

Have these maniacal self-doubt instigators ever won you over? “Nobody wants me here.” “I don’t belong.” “Any moment somebody’s going to see I’m just a fake and I’m really not good at my job.” Or the famous line from the sadistic mother in Carrie: “They’re all gonna laugh at you.” These are fallacies from the…

Is Being Right Ever Better Than Being Kind?

On old college friend posted this on Facebook: “If you’re a supporting (such and such) candidate un-friend me now because you’re too stupid to talk to.” As a society we’ve become polarized by so many things. For a lot of us, being right is more important than being kind. Having married a man who does a…

Is God Still Enough When Life isn’t What You Wanted?

I know it doesn’t sound very holy, but sometimes I chuckle in church when I’m singing worship songs like I Surrender All because I know how difficult it is to surrender anything. I usually surrender my will after I’ve tried it my way a thousand times, proving the definition of insanity; doing the same thing…

We May Be Powerless At Times, But We Are Never Helpless

“O our God, will You not judge them? For we are powerless before this great multitude who are coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyes are on You.” (2 Chronicles 20:12) In this amazing story King Jehoshaphat commanded the people of Judah to pray to God and fast after…

The Long Road Home

“In the history of the Christian church, the tendency has been to avoid being identified with the sufferings of Jesus Christ. People have sought to carry out God’s orders through a shortcut of their own. God’s way is always the way of suffering— the way of the “long road home.” (Oswald Chambers -My Utmost for…

“GOD ISN’T FIXING THIS”

After the recent tragedy in San Bernardino The New York Daily News touted the headline “God Isn’t Fixing This.” When God sent His only son Jesus Christ as a sacrifice He ‘fixed’ the problem of sin through forgiveness, atonement, and eternal life for those who call on His name. Furthermore, Jesus said: “In this world you will have much…

Unhealthy Ways of Getting Our Love Needs Met (In Marriage)

Being vulnerable with another person can be difficult. Especially if we’ve been taught that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness and having emotional needs is wrong. But when we hide our vulnerability out of ‘shame’ it often surfaces in other ways; such as through anger, manipulation, and control. Here’s an example. I’m somewhat introverted…