You are Unique, Not Limited

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalm 139:13-14). I recently took a personality test on temperament and scored a perfect 10 on ‘introvert.’ I had to laugh as I wondered how…

What is the Hardest Thing You’ve Ever Had to Give Up?

“For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world” (1 Timothy 6:7). I never realize how much stuff I have until it’s time to move it all. What used to fit in the back of my pickup now requires a moving truck the size of a semi. Sometimes…

Is it Ever OK to Not Want to Recover?

“When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?” (John 5:6) Mental illness, addiction, and other traumas plague many families including my own. When I chose to recover it was a long and sometimes difficult journey…

This is Another Thing that Could Be Drowning Out God’s Voice

  You word is a lamp on my feet, a light on my path” (Psalm 119). In a previous piece I wrote about how listening to too many opinions can make it hard to hear God’s voice. This dovetails with another thing that can drown out God’s voice; an unclear sense of identity; not really…

How Education Almost Ruined My Mind

“Creative minds have always been known to survive any kind of bad training”  (Anna Freud). I’m 10 years old and really excited. I’m in fourth grade and it’s field trip day. Our class is going to visit the Super Computer! Now this is a fancy machine with a program that will tell you what you’re…

This is One Thing That Could Be Drowning out God’s Voice

“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe” (Proverbs 29:25). The fear of man has tripped me up in more ways than I can count. One of the biggest problems it’s caused me is a lot of confusion and difficulty in making decisions. When I…

The Void Where Shame Hides

I used to experience deep feelings of emptiness. I could be in a room full of people and still feel alone. Somewhere along the line I had created a shell, a ‘false front’ I wanted people to see instead of the real me. In a radio interview on Focus on the Family I heard author…

False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

But, Because of Jesus (Shame is Finished)

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). Even though he didn’t sin, Jesus felt shame when he took ours upon himself and was…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…