The Void Where Shame Hides

I used to experience deep feelings of emptiness. I could be in a room full of people and still feel alone. Somewhere along the line I had created a shell, a ‘false front’ I wanted people to see instead of the real me. In a radio interview on Focus on the Family I heard author…

False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

You Are Not Unlovable

It wasn’t until I began exploring the topic of shame that I realized I’d felt unlovable most of my life. I wasn’t consciously aware of, it was just below the surface of everything I did; like trying to earn everyone’s approval, or not really playing an active role in who my friends were (letting my relationships…

But, Because of Jesus (Shame is Finished)

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). Even though he didn’t sin, Jesus felt shame when he took ours upon himself and was…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…

Confess and Be Blessed

It can be hard to confess our sins to God. I find it easier to avoid certain topics and pray for obvious things like my family, job, friends, or those in need. When it comes to my sins it’s tempting to gloss over them quickly or confess them silently lest I speak out loud and…

How I Went From Darkness to Light

Colossians 1:13 says God rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of light. Before it happened to me: I was drinking heavily, using drugs, and contemplating going to one of those Wicca meetings. A lot of people desire the freedom to live this way, and I guess they should have…

What Can We Give God’s That’s Actually Valuable?

I read somewhere that the submission of our will is the only unique thing we can give to God. Everything else He’s already given us, but when we surrender our will to Him we’re actually really giving Him something. There were so many times I tried to do things for God that were my idea, not His….