False Guilt and Shame

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation without regret, but worldly sorrow brings death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Psychology today defines guilt as: a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined. Shame is defined as: the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous,…

The Only One Worthy Enough to Throw Stones is the Only One Who Doesn’t

  It’s easy to judge others harshly for their sins, while soft peddling our own. I’ve carried around shame inflicted by condemners, and I’ve been a condemner a few times too! However, we were not given the authority to condemn. That’s Gods job. It also means we don’t really have the authority to internalize the shame others can…

Grace: The Best Bargain of All

Match making sites are full of people searching for true love; the kind that’s unconditional. Casinos are packed with gamblers hoping to win millions without earning it. Advertisements are constantly promoting ‘free gift with purchase,’ or a ‘no cost consultation.’ Who doesn’t want something for nothing? I’d love to win the lottery, even though I didn’t earn…

But, Because of Jesus (Shame is Finished)

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Hebrews 12:2). Even though he didn’t sin, Jesus felt shame when he took ours upon himself and was…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…

Confess and Be Blessed

It can be hard to confess our sins to God. I find it easier to avoid certain topics and pray for obvious things like my family, job, friends, or those in need. When it comes to my sins it’s tempting to gloss over them quickly or confess them silently lest I speak out loud and…

Why Do We Have Hope?

In this life, hope is a moving target. Our hopes change as we change. There are times when our hopes are fulfilled and seasons when they’re dashed. Even in the midst of grieving their loss new hope springs forth; and sometimes even those hopes are dashed too. And unfortunately so much of what we hope for depends on…

How I Went From Darkness to Light

Colossians 1:13 says God rescued us from the kingdom of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of light. Before it happened to me: I was drinking heavily, using drugs, and contemplating going to one of those Wicca meetings. A lot of people desire the freedom to live this way, and I guess they should have…

Why Sometimes it’s Safer In the Storm

Dr. David Jeremiah said: “It’s safer in the storm with Jesus in the boat than it is on the shore without Him.” The problem is it doesn’t always feel safe in the storm. I’m always tempted to take the easy way out when things get hard. Often times I want to keep quiet instead of speaking…