What is the Hardest Thing You’ve Ever Had to Give Up?

“For we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world” (1 Timothy 6:7). I never realize how much stuff I have until it’s time to move it all. What used to fit in the back of my pickup now requires a moving truck the size of a semi. Sometimes…

Is it Ever OK to Not Want to Recover?

“When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?” (John 5:6) Mental illness, addiction, and other traumas plague many families including my own. When I chose to recover it was a long and sometimes difficult journey…

This is Another Thing that Could Be Drowning Out God’s Voice

  You word is a lamp on my feet, a light on my path” (Psalm 119). In a previous piece I wrote about how listening to too many opinions can make it hard to hear God’s voice. This dovetails with another thing that can drown out God’s voice; an unclear sense of identity; not really…

This is One Thing That Could Be Drowning out God’s Voice

“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe” (Proverbs 29:25). The fear of man has tripped me up in more ways than I can count. One of the biggest problems it’s caused me is a lot of confusion and difficulty in making decisions. When I…

How Shame Gave Birth to Blame (and How to Let Them Both Go)

Shame gave birth to blame a long time ago. We find it in the book of Genesis a few pages past, “In the beginning” and “Let there be light.” (Genesis 1:1-3). Satan tempts Eve by getting her to ‘doubt God’s goodness’ (Genesis 3:1-6). Then Eve shares the perilous fruit with Adam and “their eyes were…

Have You Given Yourself Permission to Love?

I frequently ask God to help me love people better, including myself. I desired the kind of love described in 1 Corinthians 13:5. One that’s not “self-seeking,” or “easily angered.” One that doesn’t ‘keep score.’ I learned it wasn’t possible until I gave myself permission: Permission to care about my feelings, to choose my relationships,…

Identify the Blocker Keeping You from Getting what You want

If you keep struggling with the same goal year after year, try to identify what your blocker is. It could be fear of success. It could be fear of failure. It’s possible to have both simultaneously. Maybe you’ve been codependent and haven’t followed your heart because you’re acting on everyone else’s advice. Or you’ve been trying…

Should You Trust Your Gut?

Trust your Gut. You may think it’s an overused cliché that doesn’t really line up with scripture. Yet how many times has your ‘gut’ indicated something was wrong and you ignored it? If you reflect on all those situations I bet you’d discover 90 percent of the time something really was wrong and you ignored it…

Who Is The Real Victim Of Un-Forgiveness?

  Ephesians 4:32 tells us to forgive one another as Christ forgave us. When we don’t it can harm us more than our transgressors because bitterness and resentment are damaging to our mind, body and spirit. When we don’t forgive, we remain a victim of the offense, giving the offender tremendous power over us. Knowing…

Lost In The Shuffle

In his book Lost in the Shuffle Robert Subby describes one of the ‘rules’ of the co-dependent family: It’s not ok to talk about or express feelings openly When we live by this rule we come to believe that our feeling are bad or wrong. As a result we shut them down and become ‘cut…