Is Being Right Ever Better Than Being Kind?

On old college friend posted this on Facebook: “If you’re a supporting (such and such) candidate un-friend me now because you’re too stupid to talk to.”

As a society we’ve become polarized by so many things. For a lot of us, being right is more important than being kind.

Having married a man who does a lot of campaign work I understand times for ‘debating,’ ‘mudslinging,’ and ‘fighting to be right.’

But I’m not talking about politics specifically. That’s just one obvious example since 50 percent of people in America believe the other 50 percent are ‘too stupid to talk to.’

So often our need to be right creates an ‘us versus them’ mentality: “They are so dumb if they believe that!” or “They are so ignorant if they support that!”

While there may be some truth to statements like that, (yes, I’m guilty of making them at times too) they de-humanize us. We forget we’re all human beings created by God. Most of us were born tender creatures; sensitive and easily wounded. We want to be happy and prosperous. We want the best for our families. We want to love others, and we want to be loved in return.

An article by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth provided me with some personal clarity surrounding sensitive subjects like politics and religion; and wounds surrounding hurt and betrayal.

The author shares some wisdom her dad imparted to her growing up: “You will not have to give account to God for what someone else does to you. You will only be held accountable for how you respond.”

I felt a strong sense of relief after reading those words. I felt somehow released from everyone else’s thoughts, actions, and opinions; and freed from their inflicted hurt and betrayal.

Just like you, I have so many unexpressed thoughts and opinions that agitate my well-being and disturb my peace.

Most of them I will keep to myself until we can meet face to face, and I can look into your eyes and be reminded that you are human just like me.

Sometimes it is better to be kind than to be right. We do not need an intelligent mind that speaks, but a patient heart that listens. – Author Unknown



2 Comments Add yours

  1. Anonymous says:

    Thank you Jodie. Very well said and great advice as always. I found myself in a similar situation with a friend on FB. I don’t post political items just strong American items. Sad when someone finds offense in a strong America. Keep up the great work! May God bless you and yours!

    1. Thank you so much and thanks for reading!!

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