“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” (Romans 12:2).
One of the reasons I believe we’re told to seek God’s will instead of our own is because in addition to knowing what’s best for us, God’s not driven by greed, revenge, or other worldly motivations.
If we need to step on someone’s toes to get what we want it probably means our motivation is wrong, or we may be trying to fulfill our unmet needs in an unhealthy way.
Jesus addressed this when He said: “These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. Seek the kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and He will give you everything you need” (Matthew 6:32 & 33).
When we start seeking God first a couple of things begin to happen: Our thoughts begin to change; our heart begins to change; our character begins to change; and our motivation begins to change.
Knowing God’s will starts by ‘letting go of the reins,’ giving up control, and letting God be first.