For most of my life I was unable to identify my feelings.
Therapists or friends would say things like: “…and how does that make you feel.” “I don’t know.” I would say.
Maybe you experienced deep wounds as a child and your pain wasn’t recognized or validated. Perhaps you were told your feelings were wrong. Or maybe an adult figure projected their pain onto you and you internalized it along with the impression that your feelings were irrelevant.
When you got older it became easy to let others make decisions for you because you felt like their feelings were more important than yours.
If this is true then how in the world do you get in touch with your own feelings?
Pray and ask God to reveal your feelings to you, try and stop internalizing everyone else’s feelings to make some room for your own; and as Dr. Henry Cloud said in his book Boundaries: establish “where you end and someone else begins.”