God brought my husband into my life right about the time I made peace with being single.
I was having a great time making friends in the singles ministry at church. I was enjoying everyone, except one guy who I thought was really annoying. And to make matters worse, my friend had a crush on him.
“What do you see in him?” I kept asking her. “He’s loud, opinionated, and to top it off, he wears really bright clothes.”
We’ve been married now for over seven years and he is the most sensitive, loving, and affectionate man I’ve ever known. He is, however, still opinionated and occasionally wears bright clothes.
There is no doubt God brought us together. He knew that the attributes I thought I wanted in man, when applied to my personality, would end in calamity or divorce. By then, that fact was no revelation. I even had proof – a multitude of detrimental relationships with men whose qualities all coincided with the ones on my ‘list’, which I prayed over every night.
It was the ‘in thing’ at the time. You made a ridiculous list of features and characteristics you wanted in a mate, most of them endowments you yourself did not possess. Then you prayed over your list hoping God would magically bring you that exact person.
I once heard popular psychologist Dr. Henry Cloud say:
“Usually what we think we want in a partner is based on psychosis.”
As in something that probably happened in our childhood. A statement like that can only mean something dreadful.
I spent a good portion of my life chasing after what I didn’t even want, hoping it would satisfy some unidentified longing which was probably based on some unknown or unresolved childhood issue. But God knew exactly what I needed even before I did.
Psalm 139: 2-4 says:
You know when I sit and when I rise;
you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
you, Lord, know it completely.
If you’re searching for a mate, a friendship, or trying to make a difficult decision know this, God knows you better than you know yourself.
God has blessed me abundantly with everything I needed. All in a package I didn’t know I wanted.