Over the last 15 years my husband and I have accomplished some pretty cool goals. I lost over 60 pounds and he lost one hundred and thirty! We paid off one hundred thousand dollars of debt. In addition, I’ve been sober over 12 years and he’s coming up on 16 years of sobriety. The good news is none of these goals started out as New Year’s Resolutions!
If you’re struggling with doubt, self-pity, anger, lust, weight, addiction, or any other emotional or habitual difficulty, remember, these troubles were probably formed over the span of several years or more, and sometimes it can take years to undo them.
We’ve all heard the saying ‘Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day.’ The state of your heart wasn’t built in a day either, or the state of your life. Your situation now (whether good or bad) is most likely a culmination of the patterns and habits of every day prior, each happening ‘one day at a time.’
I’ve seen addicts relapse and businesses fall apart because people were moving ahead too quickly.
A great example is how losing weight is one of the top new year’s resolutions. And yet almost 90% of people quit going to the gym by the time March rolls around.
There is a reason recovery programs teach living ‘one day at a time.’
An addict can only stay sober one day at a time and weight comes off one pound at a time. Making a commitment to change requires constant effort over time with accountability to stay the course.
Looking at the big picture never hurts but if you stay there you will overwhelm yourself with how far you have to go and be tempted to quit.
Take apart the large goal by setting small goals for yourself and reward yourself for achieving them. And if you mess up, you can begin again tomorrow. But, pick yourself up and restart.
This way the failures, if you have them, are small and not devastating.
Leave it to a famous historical figure who had a few failures himself to sum it all up. (He ran for office and lost several times before eventually being elected President of the United States.) Abraham Lincoln said, “The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time.”
- What goal(s) would you like to achieve this year?
- Reflect on past goals you’ve achieved. How did you do it?
Happy New Year